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Energy Psychology: Top 5 Tips to Cultivate Positive Energy In Your Partnership

Energy psychology is practiced by roughly 3,000 doctors and certified practitioners all over the world. What's brought this practice into the "limelight" is using this technique to get a person, who is typically very afraid of, say, a snake, to be able to hold the snake by the end of their session. What a radical change is that?!? EP is a great energy building modality for self and group healing that can get you results TODAY. So if you're ready for rapid growth, strap in and get ready to put your mind, body and energetic spirit to work!

Energy psychology, for me because of its body integrative techniques, is related to applied kinesiology which was developed by David Hawkins*. Hawkins was a doctor from England who was knighted by Queen Elizabeth II for his work on "The Hawkins Levels of Consciousness". More on that juicy bit of knowledge later at the bottom of this article!

This article is to introduce you to the world of energetic healing. Or more simply put, cycling energy through the body to create positive magnetic (feelings) and energetic (mind) connections in your system.
I know healing through medicine and food alone can just feel like a temporary "yo-yo" effect in your body and affecting your overall mood. When you don't tap into your innate energy reserves or simply try to listen to your body as-is before you nourish it with anything, you're never getting the full story on what's going on.

I've used meditation as a form of tuning-in to my intuition for over 25 years of my life, but energy psychology brought my self-healing game to a whole new level. My journey in energy psychology has helped me get off the ADD and PTSD medications, which doctors already know, should only be used temporarily. Three-to-five years tops on the same medication, ideally, while you integrate into a healthier lifestyle. That's a doctor's hope, anyways.

I was captive to the pills that eventually lost their effectiveness overtime and cycles of worry and stress when the medication was wearing off. The medication didn't help me slow down. This is why breath-work in meditation practice is so important. With mediation and natural plant medicines, I was able to gently tap into my energy reserves to see what was stagnating and how I can unblock areas of my body to better receive energetic flows. We are all made-up of electrons, protons and neurons after all! When you slow down and relax, the body can tell you what it needs in the most clear and concise ways. No joke!

Here is my list for why couples could practice energy psychology. It starts with the self before you engage in communication with your partner. If I know this when I was married for 10 years not so long ago, I truly believe I would have stayed married.

I gift you my top tips for your to practice now:

Tip #1 - Educate yourself with YouTube (it's free and worth your time): Look at different energy psychology techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or the Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT) to help you manage and release negative emotions.

You can thank me later. :)

Tip #2 - Take time to practice individually: Practice energy psychology techniques on your own to clear your own energy and emotions before interacting with your partner.

Write a ranked list on how a certain situation bothers you that involves your partner. Notice what part of your body this effects when just thinking about the topic. Ask yourself if it is related to your partner or a personal biased.

Self-inquiry is very important here.

Tip #3 Use visualization: Use visualization to imagine positive outcomes and to visualize a healthy conversation with your partner before you embark in your next interaction.

I'm going to get personal here. Before energy psychology, I just felt in my bones that I knew better than my partner. But I was just setting myself up to drive my partner, my husband at the time, away. Taking the "I already know" approach alienates your loved one and makes you come across as condescending and, if this is a repeated pattern where you always "win" the argument, you might be labeled the dreaded "narcissist" word. Even when you're not.

If you want to give your relationship a chance to move and grow, take more time to self-reflect.

Tip #4 Practice self-care: Make sure to take care of your physical, emotional and mental well-being, it will reflect positively on your relationship.

There are three sections, that make-up a triangle, that I see make-up a potentially very successful relationship.

1.) The bodily actions you do together and share the learns.

2.) The mentally stimulating things you let your partner do, without guilt or suspicion. It will give you more things to talk about if you're not always together! If your partner decides to stay away too long or too often, this is an opportunity to apply Tip #2 to your EP practice. For you first. And your relationship.

3.) The spirited adventures, or experiments, you try at least 3-4 times a year. You should strive to grow, together.

Tip #5 Communicate openly: Share your thoughts, feelings and experiences with your partner. Use "I" statements to express your own feelings and be willing to listen to your partner's perspective.

Try not to take stock to simply win the "who listens better competition". Put the intention out there that you would "prefer a partner that listens to what is important to me, because I listen to what is important to them"- strategy and see how far that takes you.

It is so important to take off your armor off and show a bit of vulnerability to your loved one. You get more bees (or attention) with honey. As they say. Don't ever assume you know your partner and how they feel about the particular subject you want to discuss or what they're thinking. Yet, in time with love and attention, you just may get closer to really understanding what they are thinking without exchanging words. Wouldn't that be beautiful?

We're capable of creating thousands of new neural pathways, and modes of doing things and ways of thinking about processes, within weeks. Just because your partner is changing, doesn't mean it is in the way that you want. And with EP infused in your daily mindful practice, you will grow to learn that this is okay and even beautiful.

I will teach this more in-depth during our couples' retreat in February, which includes 60 days on online trainings that ensures your can see some of your new mindful practices I give you, put into action, and with amazing results!

* One of my favorite empaths, David R. Hawkins, MD., Phd., is a widely known authority within the fields of consciousness research and spirituality, has written and taught from the unique perspective of an experienced clinician, scientist, and mystic. I am personally trained in energy psychology, applied kinesiology and chakra tuning. I am not a doctor. Please consult a doctor or therapist if you are in a serious need of medical assistance. *

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